Why Was I Rejected? How to Deal

For most things, working hard and having a positive attitude was enough. Showing up is 90% of it, right? I just want to take a few moments to talk about when it's not:

You didn't get picked. They said no. The deal went the other way.

I don't know about you, but my first thought is what I could have done better. How could I improve for the next time? What are other people doing that I am not? What more can I do to prepare?

The scarier thought, though, is when you have tried your best. When you have given your all...that "all" where you have put yourself on the line. The "all" that makes it 100x worse when you don't get something. Barbara Corcoran says in many of her interviews that disappointment in rejection is proof that you care.

I am here to tell you that sometimes it is not the right opportunity. No matter how awesome that opportunity seems, it's not your path right now. In the words of Cormac McCarthy, "you don't know what worse luck your bad luck has saved you from".

I know that sounds like every other inspiration/motivational quote out there, but just think about it. In a very small example from my own life, I had been very invested in a group in college. I really wanted it, and really gave my best effort to try to get in. I didn't make the cut, but it honestly ended up being the best thing for me. By not joining, it opened up my time for amazing new opportunities in college that I know I wouldn't have gone for.

"When the student is ready, the teacher will appear". Be ready, be open, and keep your chin up. Amazing things are on the way.

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